Ask her the things that she likes. For instance, if you like watching movies then ask her if she likes watching movies. If she says yes, you can ask her a follow-up question like what her favorite movie is. If you have seen her favorite movie, this could make an interesting point of discussion.

The whole point is to establish something in common between you two. Once you found a common ground, it will be easier to talk to each other and explore other similarities. Also the conversation will be more enjoyable because there is an actual interaction in the conversation rather than one person monopolizing it.

When the girl thinks of you, she will recall she had a grand time talking to you. You will not have a problem approaching her next time. In fact, if the conversation goes very well, she will actually look forward to talking to you again.

4. Forget ‘You’. This is probably the most important advice on how to talk to a girl. The reason why men are afraid to talk to a girl especially the one they like is because they are too self-conscious. Before they can even go near her, they are thinking ‘will she like me’, ‘will she ignore me’ and a million other thoughts mostly negative run through their heads.

This should not be so. Do not give in to self-doubt. The point of starting a conversation with a girl or with anyone else is to get to know that person well. So get yourself out of the way. You do not need to dwell on yourself because that will defeat the purpose.

Focus on the girl alone. When you do that, watch all these self-defeating thoughts flee. Be genuinely interested in the person. Do not think of yourself.

5. Listen intently. Another important advice on how to talk to a girl is to listen. You will get to know the girl better if you listen to what she is saying. You will come to understand her deeper and you will come to know the real person behind the facade. Also, if you listen, you will be able to ask relevant questions. The girl could sense your real interest in her and she will learn to trust you. The more she trusts you, the more she opens up to you.

Actually, the best conversationalists in the world are not the people who talk and talk or know what to talk about. Instead, great conversationalists are the people who really listen.

6. Be honest. Once you have established some communication with the girl, it will not be a good idea to string her along and make her think you are just after friendship when in fact you really want to date her.

If your purpose is to ask her out then find the courage to do so. You could wait for the right moment but you need to be honest to her. Make your intentions clear right from the very start so there will be no confusions later. If you wait until you become too close and she finds out that you really want to date her she might think you are abusing her trust.